Me, not assertive? …. well, maybe you’re right

August 18, 2009
Me not assertive ..... well maybe?

Me not assertive ..... well maybe you're right?

 How can I become more assertive?

Why didn’t I speak up in that meeting, and say what I thought?

Why did I agree, when I really wanted to say no to them?

What is it that is stopping me from being more assertive?

If you’ve ever asked yourself these sorts of questions, then this is a Personal Development forum that might be able to offer you wither some insights, or some encouragement, as you progress on your journey.

Many of us have the naggingg feeling at times that there are situations where we should have been more assertive, or people with whom we need to be more assertive in setting some boundaries.

Whether a lack of assertiveness is really a chronic problem or not, will be determined by how often we actually experience the sensation that we seem to be letting other people walk all over us! …..Is it something that happens occasionally (in which case it’s just a bit of personal development “tweaking” ) – or is it something that happens regularly (in which case a major personal overhaul and self re-engineering may be needed)?

Anyhow, hope fully this has offered some food for thought. You might also like to have a look at the website How To Be Assertive, which offers further information and articles on the nature of assertive behaviour.

Also, check out our webpages Assertive Behaviour ,  Personal Change and Saying No   if you would like to see some video clips with some great advice on personal development and developing your assertiveness skills.

  • To Be More Assertive, First Change Your Thinking

This short video clip offers some good advice on the need to develop a belief system that will support you in developing more assertive behaviour. Unassertive behaviour is often associated with a person “over-caring” what others think of them

  • Tips For Becoming More Assertive

Six specific ideas are explored for becoming more assertive, using the word ASSERT as a basis to present the points. For example, A is for Assess a situation that may be causing you stress or conflict – and consider whether the situation could be improved by you being more assertive and expressing your needs or concerns more clealry.

  • Three Step Assertive Communication

This short clip offers a brief and concise summary of a three step communication technique for assertively dealing with a situation whre you and another person have to deal with a point of difference.